She’s not a toy: having fun with baby reflexes

I guess most kids are familiar with the admonishment “it’s not a toy” after having fun toysonifying (new word!) an object that is meant for more serious matters. I’m sure I was.

I was smiling just now about my husband using that expression on me. Except that the object about which his faux admonishment was directed was not an object, but our baby. “She’s not a toy” he said as he watched me use her purely for my own entertainment, somewhat hypocritically with a smile on his face.  Continue reading


Magical brown bananas and our journey into solids

Becoming responsible for another human being can feel a little surreal. In fact, I sometimes still feel like the little kid sitting at the adults table at the big family Christmas party. I feel so mature beyond my years and chuffed to be here, but also a little bit like an imposter…and then I realize, oh wait, I am one of them old responsible people now! How on earth did that happen?

Anyway, one huge area for which we are responsible is providing physical sustenance for our babies. For the first 6 months of LA’s life, it was easy. We were blessed with problem-free breastfeeding from the get-go, so very little thought was involved in providing for her nutritional needs. Outings also required hardly any preparation: we just grabbed some nappies and wet wipes and out the door we went! Continue reading

My baby crab: on swimming class in Japan

Time and time again I’ve read articles and heard from more experienced mamas about the importance of playing and interacting with our young babies. Honestly, it’s a point on which I have felt a little lost because, until recently, our baby playtime has consisted of me waving various objects in front of LA’s face while she attempts to grab and stuff everything into her mouth, with the occasional song thrown in. Now, I’m sure that from Bubs’ perspective this is valuable playtime, but I found myself wondering if I was doing it “right” and if I could really consider that to be “proper” playtime, as silly as it sounds…first-time mum and all :). Continue reading

An unexpected blessing of motherhood: reconnecting with my late Mum

There is little in this world that can move me more than a smile from my baby girl. Even moreso, the sound of her laughter has the power to melt my heart in seconds, flip the grumpiest of moods on its head, and chase away my tiredness, the heaviness of which I could never have imagined before I came a mum. It is a sound I will pursue and protect for the rest of my life.

Today was a laughing kind of a day and my heart is full. After tucking the little girl up in bed, feeding her, reading to her, cuddling her, praying with her and laughing with her all the while, I find myself thinking, for the umpteenth time, “wow, so I guess this is how my mother felt about me.” The mother’s love that I have for my daughter, has become, for me, a point of connection with my own mother with whom I have not spoken in over two decades. Continue reading

Family day: Showa Kinen Park

Right now, AB has Mondays off work. Which means, while everyone else is drudging their way through the Monday blues, we get to have an extra family day. It feels like an extra, just because it is a Monday, but in truth he works Saturdays instead. We spend it by sleeping. A lot. Even 6 month old LA is with the program; yesterday she took a 3 hour nap after breakfast. No complaints there; we made it a family 3 hour nap.

Then, after the sleeping, we take the chance to check out some cool places in Tokyo, minus the Saturday crowds. Continue reading